Going Bonkers Magazine back issues from March 2007:
Letters to the editor.(Letter to the editor)
Mar 22, 2007; ... Congratulations! This is the first time I have ever been moved to write to a magazine. Going Bonkers is a gem! It made me laugh and really taught me a lot! I can't wait for my next issue. [submitted via web] Marie C., Richmond, Kentucky When I read your article, "I ...
Getting the "yes" you want: ten tips for successful negotiating: whether you need to negotiate time, money, peace or actions, your ability to negotiate successfully is crucial for survival.
Mar 22, 2007; ... Negotiation is fun if you know what you're doing. Whether you're negotiating with your spouse or kids, boss or employees, customers or car salesmen, this step-by-step, proven strategy will get you to a mutually acceptable agreement in any conflict or situation. Here are ten tips for ...
I could do anything, if I only knew what it was.
Mar 22, 2007; ... Do you want a life you will love? Do you want to jump out of bed, excited about the day ahead? Do you crave work that will spark excitement and energy? Two Harvard psychologists completed a study of people who called themselves "happy". What did they have ...
Forgive for good: freeing yourself from pain and resentment: are past hurts weighing you down? Do you have resentment or anger against someone who has "wronged" you? You know you should forgive, but something inside of you screams "No!".
Mar 22, 2007; ... Forgiveness is like setting a prisoner free--then discovering that YOU were that prisoner! To forgive means to let go of resentments and blame. It's a gift you give to yourself, and not something you do for someone else. It gives you peace of mind and it creates healing in your life. It ...
Are you relationship ready? So, you want to fall in love again? You aren't getting any younger, and you are moving well along your chosen career path. Many of your friends are either married or in committed relationships. You have grown weary of the singles scene and the solitary life. Therefore, you must be ready, right? Not necessarily.
Mar 22, 2007; ... Being relationship "ready" means that you are adequately capable of handling the commitment and challenges that a healthy, intimate relationship requires. How do you know if you're ready? What are the characteristics you need to have or acquire in order to be ready for true love? ...
Living your dream: dream big, and then take the necessary steps to follow that dream.(60 SECOND SELF)
Mar 22, 2007 ... I recall a story about a young man, Gary Willie, whose dream was to attend college. He was poor and his only hope of attending was to get an athletic scholarship. When the recruiter came to his school to choose the kids who would receive the scholarships, he was not chosen, but his friend ...
Worried sick: do you, or someone you love, go through the day anticipating catastrophes regarding common everyday concerns like finances, health, family, relationships or safety? Is your daily life a constant state of excessive worry, fear or dread? You may be suffering from Generalized Anxiety Disorder!
Mar 22, 2007; ... The nights were all the same. Jane would wake up at 4am and lay in bed, staring at the ceiling. Her mind would flood with anxious thoughts, clicking through different worries like a nightmarish slide show. "What if we can't pay the mortgage this month? We'll get booted out of here. Oh, and ...
Life is funny! Stories so funny--they must be true!
Mar 22, 2007; ... I was at a sporting good store comparing different kinds of golf balls. I was unhappy with the women's type of golf balls I had been using. After browsing for several minutes, I was approached by one of the young, good-looking men who worked at the store. He asked if he could help me ....
The law of attraction: how it works, and how to make it work for you: Universal Laws govern the Universe. They are basic principles of life and have been around since Creation. Universal Laws apply to everyone, everywhere, and work in your life, whether or not you believe they exist.
Mar 22, 2007; ... The Universal Law of Attraction is the most powerful of these laws, and has been described in hundreds of simple terms, including: like attracts like; what goes around comes around; you reap what you sow. The Law of Attraction is easy to learn and use and best of all, you can use this law ...
Goals.(60 SECOND SELF)
Mar 22, 2007 ... You have your very own, amazing, built-in goal machine--your subconscious mind! Its job is to figure out what you want, then to help you get it. Here's how: 1. It looks for and grabs messages and instructions from your conscious thoughts, feelings, actions and words. ...
Instant self-hypnosis: a beginners guide: whether you want to fly without fear, lose weight, stop smoking, or end fingernail biting, self-hypnosis can help you make changes to improve your life. This new, easy-to-use method allows you to put yourself into a hypnotic state instantly and easily.
Mar 22, 2007; ... Isn't hypnosis for Las Vegas audiences? Doesn't self-hypnosis set you up for losing control? If you hypnotize yourself, how will you ever wake up? People have a lot of strange or exaggerated notions about self-hypnosis even though it's a safe and easy method for personal change. Most of ...
Courting trouble: when your child is in trouble with the law.
Mar 22, 2007; ... Today, there are a myriad of ways for kids to get in trouble. Plenty of good kids make bad choices and run into problems. If you discover your child is in trouble with the law, remain calm. As a parent, you'll probably feel anger at your child for their stupid behavior, but save your anger ...
Too good to leave, too bad to stay: do you make up or break up? Whether you're just getting serious or have a long-term commitment, no other question causes so much heartache and self-doubt. A guide to help you uncover the truth about your relationship.
Mar 22, 2007; ... You've probably gone through a lot to get to this point. You've hoped that love would be enough. And you've worked to resolve the problems in your relationship. You've tried to accept things the way they are. You've probably agonized over the possibility of leaving. But you just haven't ...
Take a laugh break.
Mar 22, 2007 ... A couple was invited to a Halloween costume party. The wife got a headache and told her husband to go to the party alone. After an hour, she felt better and decided to go to the party. As her husband didn't know what her costume was, she thought she would have some fun by watching her ...
Mirror, mirror on the wall: accepting and loving our imperfect bodies.
Mar 22, 2007; ... A healthy body image includes having a realistic picture of our body, and accepting this image without fear or shame. Every summer for four or five days, I go to a Zen retreat center in Carmel Valley and stare at naked women's bodies. Some would call this peeping. I call it ...
Raising your child's soul: what good parents don't know about raising good kids: we all hope our kids will grow up to have caring hearts and lead successful and happy lives. Parents have been taught that if we just love our kids, be there for them, and be interested in their lives, we can expect for our kids to turn out pretty terrific.
Mar 22, 2007; ... It's not enough in today's challenging world to just love our kids. Kids need the tools to be prepared to cope with life's challenges in a caring and humane way. It's our job to give them the direction they need to avoid negative influences and become successful, caring human beings. ...
Creating balance.(60 SECOND SELF)
Mar 22, 2007 ... Some of your unhappiness and pain, both physical and mental, may stem from a lack of balance and harmony in your life. Your life should consist of: Work, Play, Spirituality, Relationships and Intellect. To create a happy, whole and fulfilled life, integrate and balance each of these into ...
"I don't have to make everything all better": stop "fixing" everything and start empowering others to solve their own problems!
Mar 22, 2007; ... Do others expect you to solve their problems for them? Do you find yourself giving your time, money or emotions to problems that are not your own? Are you feeling the weight of everyone's problems on your shoulders? Too many of us needlessly carry this burden because we care about the ...
The depression weapon: how certain foods affect your mental health.
Mar 22, 2007; ... Have you ever been cranky when you are hungry, or groggy after a big meal. Food can seriously affect your mood and your overall mental-functioning. That's why it should be no surprise that the "right" fats can make you happy! Does it seem like more and more people you know are ...
Making decisions.(60 SECOND SELF)
Mar 22, 2007 ... Most people are decidophobic, and fear making a wrong decision. Unless you can see into the future, you cannot know with absolute certainty that the decision you're making is the best one, because the results of your decision are based on future actions--and future actions are often ...
The disease to please: when pleasing others is hurting you: do you say "yes" when you really want to say "no"? Do you put the needs of others first, even at the expense of your own wants and needs? When you give 100 percent to others, and get nothing in return, do you feel resentment? If so, you may have the Disease to Please!
Mar 22, 2007; ... Imagine a common condition that affects millions of people--one that causes raised blood pressure, low self worth, stress, anxiety, worry, depression, headaches, digestive disorders, muscle tension and more--a condition that even undermines and destroy relationships. This condition is ...
When your senior parent has a new partner: mom is getting married, dad has a new girlfriend, What's an adult child to do?
Mar 22, 2007; ... With the divorce rate still hovering at fifty percent, and our extended life-span, it's very likely that your senior mother, father, or both will have a new love interest at some point, if they don't already. When your parent has been widowed or divorced, your bond with him or ...
Bonkers brain tease.
Mar 22, 2007 ... DOWN: 1- Setting yourself free; a sign of strength. 2- Affects mood and mental-functioning. 3- Subtle type; everything in universe. 4- Your most powerful self. 6- Your true passion. 8- Unclear outcome. 9- Most ...
Ending self-sabotage: how to get from where you are now, to where you want to be.
Mar 22, 2007; ... Do you ever wonder why, despite your best intentions, you just aren't getting the results you want in life? Maybe you've been trying to boost your career; improve your relationship; get in shape; gain more self-confidence; save more money; be more organized; or a hundred other worthwhile ...
Wacky wisdom 4 positive living.
Mar 22, 2007 ... Your Family TREE is Bigger Than You May Think There is a universal belief that love can change the world--and it can, person by person, act, by act. Most of us love our family, and will acknowledge that it is easier to love a family member vs. a "stranger". You may not want to ...
Rage: when Jekyll turns to Hyde.
Mar 22, 2007; ... Jake, a 25 year old accountant, knows he's in trouble. Yesterday he got mad at Jenny, his wife, because she came home a couple hours late from her Mom's house. He started out fairly calmly talking with her but then he blew a fuse. First he yelled, then he bellowed, then he smashed a tray ...
How anger affects your health.
Mar 22, 2007; ... "Unresolved, unrecognized anger often sets the stage for all manner of diseases, including depression, heart disease, arthritis, and some forms of cancer. --Dr. Christiane Northrup, M.D. You probably understand and accept that anger can be bad for you. But did you ...
Why am I here? A guide to discovering your purpose in life: everyone has a purpose in life. But how do you learn to go with the flow and let your true nature guide you to find it?
Mar 22, 2007; ... What's my purpose? What am I doing on this planet ... among these people ... in this country ... at this time? What am I meant to do in this lifetime? These are questions of the ages, and riddles that have challenged human beings since they came to be. Nothing is certain, except that each ...
Discover your purpose.(60 SECOND SELF)
Mar 22, 2007 ... To discover your purpose, look to the talents you have been given. Make a list of your good qualities, talents and skills. If you can't recognize any good qualities within yourself, ask a friend to list good qualities they see in you. Take your list of qualities, talents and ...
Weight warriors: using weight as a Shield against negativity: do you feel an urge to eat during times of stress or negativity, even though you aren't hungry? Do you have trouble distinguishing between physical hunger and the urge to eat?
Mar 22, 2007; ... Early twentieth century healers were renowned for being overweight to avoid absorbing their patient's symptoms. Some modern-day healers also unconsciously fall into this trap. You may be following this protective path without even realizing it. Could you be using your extra weight as an ...
Managing morning madness.
Mar 22, 2007; ... Are your mornings rushed, chaotic and disorganized? Are things often forgotten? Are you habitually running late? Is everyone grumpy and short-tempered as you get up and out the door in the morning? This kind of morning can make your weekdays stressful and unpleasant. If you want to ...
Bonkers eye focus.
Mar 22, 2007 ... DIRECTIONS: Focus. Find the 8 differences in details between pictures. [ILLUSTRATION OMITTED] ANSWERS: 1-PLAYER #1 MISSING EYES. 2-PLAYER #24 MISSING ARM BAND. 3-TOWEL IS ...
Tearing down the house: coping with a destructive narcissist.
Mar 22, 2007; ... Does someone in your family poke fun and use put-downs to demean others? Are they critical of everyone, and just downright mean? Do they refuse to ever admit they are wrong and routinely blame you for everything? If so, then BEWARE: you may have a destructive narcissist in the house! ...
Once upon a dream: understanding 5 common dreams.
Mar 22, 2007; ... Sleep is your passport to entering another world, where everything is possible. The experts say that sleep is broken into 4 stages. Stage 1: You drift off; barely awake. Stage 2: Suffice it to say, you're "out". Stage 3: Delta sleep--deep sleep. This is ...
What God asks you in heaven.
Mar 22, 2007; ... A spiritual teacher quizzes me, "Do you know what God's going to ask you when you die?" I can't imagine that anyone knows the answer to this "impossible" question. Yet my mentor is sincere. From past encounters, I know that he isn't going to hold his breath waiting for me to dig up an ...
Taking charge of your health: how to be an empowered patient.
Mar 22, 2007; ... Doctors used to be the experts of our bodies and health. But now routinely, doctors are getting challenged by a new breed of patient--the empowered patient. While doctors play a key role in our health care, empowered patients realize that doctors' orders alone will not make us well, and ...
Don't toss my memories in the trash! Downsizing your home.
Mar 22, 2007; ... Do you need to help your senior parents downsize and move? Or are you someone who needs to move from your large home to a smaller home? It can be overwhelming to think about starting the process of downsizing and relocating, but with a little planning, you'll be well on your way. ...
Self-doubt.(60 SECOND SELF)
Mar 22, 2007 ... Self-doubt can rise when you seek approval from another, and they determine that you don't measure up. Maybe they don't recognize the talents and abilities you've been given. Take a break from seeking approval from anyone else, until you learn to trust and believe in yourself. ...
Stupid cupid.
Mar 22, 2007; ... Whether this is your first or your tenth serious relationship, there are several questions every couple should consider before moving in together or making joint financial commitments. Even if you've already taken the plunge, it's never too late to discuss these important issues with your ...
Success is a process.(60 SECOND SELF)
Mar 22, 2007 ... You were born into the world with a desire to succeed. If you don't have it now, then it's because you gave it up. Your success depends on what you will do, and not what you can do. If you will follow these steps, you will be successful. Success is a process, not an event, and ...
Free to be me: finding the power to be your most powerful self.
Mar 22, 2007; ... All your efforts at self-improvement can likely be boiled down to one simplistic goal--to become your most powerful "you". By discovering your individuality, nurturing your passions, and developing an attitude of gratitude, you'll be well on your way to leading a fulfilling life ...
What happy people know: "your happiness or unhappiness is never caused by anyone or anything outside of yourself.".
Mar 22, 2007; ... Wow! Read that one again. Your happiness or unhappiness is never caused by anyone or anything outside of yourself. It's easy to think that events or people have affected your happiness. But that puts the responsibility for your happiness in someone else's hands and takes the burden away ...